A Natural Beauty & Model . . . Daphne Selfe

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And she doesn’t believe in Botox!  Or anything for that matter outside of eating healthy, staying active, and continually working!

This is Daphne Selfe and for those of you in the U.S. . . .  she’s a phenom in the UK!  Daphne is in her late 80’s and she’s still modeling!  My sister gave me her book as she knew I would appreciate the story of such a woman.  And I most certainly did!  It’s a quick and simple read, but it’s her story and it’s real.

I have spent the past few months in the UK and Europe and I can say this with absolute certainty . . . women there are NATURAL beauties!  It was so refreshing!  You simply don’t see “jacked up” faces over there . . . and I loved it!  Has me rethinking a lot of things . . . .  Daphne is inspiring to be sure!

 

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Something to think about . . .

ultrapreventionI am not a doctor.  But I am going to give all who are interested a prescription . . .  BE INTUITIVE!

As I get older, and I have to believe “wiser”, I have become obsessed (in a good way) with wellness, wholeness, my well-being.  I think it’s natural when you hit your “mid-life”. I workout, I eat über healthy, I meditate, I work on being “present” each and every moment.  I try to live in a very “aware” space.  My cup is always full.

My father was a doctor . . . and he was great at it.  He never in all his years of practice had a malpractice suit or anything for that matter.  As I say that, he was also just a man.  A man who was very educated, cerebral, smart.  He was NOT GOD.  He did NOT KNOW EVERYTHING. And I can tell you, we used to have healthy conversations about his version of maintaining health and mine.  I, for example, prefer not to take drugs (unless it’s absolutely necessary and sometimes it is).  For some strange reason, for many years, I have always been more about curing the cause, not the symptom.  I have always wondered why  . . .  physically, emotionally, spiritually . . .  something has manifested.  The symptoms were just details.

This brings me to a book that I think everyone should read . . .  Ultra-Prevention by Mark Hyman and Mark Liponis, both MD’s.  It’s everything I suspected and knew and I know many of you think the same. I am so not ok with hearing how almost daily, someone has been diagnosed with cancer.  I am NOT OK WITH THIS.  It is totally unacceptable. I think so many things need to be considered when someone is trying to deal with their symptoms and figure out what the cause is.

For example . . .  underwire bras and antiperspirants.  I’m jumping into this as it’s so on my radar right now and it has been this past decade (I will go more in-depth on this in a future post). I can tell you that my left breast was in serious pain for years, like a stabbing feeling on one side.  I get my mammograms and ultrasounds annually so I know what it’s not. So between my doctor AND my gut . . . I cut out quite a bit of caffeine (his call) and I stopped wearing underwire bras, AND I started experimenting with natural deodorants and antiperspirants.  Guess what?  Pain gone, odor not so bad except on super hot days or at the gym, and sweat still there but I’m ok with that as it is healthy. There is so much conflicting information out there on these two subjects alone!  One study says you can’t get cancer from underwire bras and antiperspirants . . .  another report says you can. Example: http://www.breastcancer.org/risk/factors/no_evidence.  I may get criticized for the statement I’m about to make but I don’t care . . .  I think this link is total BS.  There is a fear (among other non ethical reasons) out there in calling things out. Instead of  making ridiculous “no evidence” statements (I personally have read plenty of evidence), why don’t these organizations tell us what it is if they know what it isn’t.  Because they don’t know either!  

I listen to my gut first and foremost.  I am totally being intuitive to what my body wants, needs, feels. Deep down we all know when something is right or wrong.  Read everything you can on a subject, then feel it.  That’s the right answer.

Peace in the eye of the Storm

So there I was . . .  sitting back in a plush, massaging chair at the nail salon watching CNN . . . getting a pedi, nothing special.   I’m sitting there captivated by the coverage of Oklahoma and a super storm. I watch as this massive tornado touches down and starts pulverizing the earth.  Killing people.  Wow.  I feel like a loser as I’m getting a pedi and people are dying and losing their homes.  All of a sudden, this blog seems so unimportant.  Then I remember why Gigi and I really committed to do this.

I remember when Gigi and I starting blogging about 3 or 4 years ago.  We had a long talk and decided that since so many women ask us about our skincare regimen . . .  what are our secrets . . .  what can we recommend . . . we found ourselves compelled to share and give.  That includes what makes us tick on the inside too.  As much as we love to talk all things beauty . . .  there is more to life!  Beauty starts WITHIN.

untetheredsoulI wish to share another fantastic book . . .  The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer.  This week I thought how ironic . . .  a tornado untethers us from the “stuff” as most catastrophes do.   And sometimes that’s a good thing.  We’re not here to hold on, we’re here to let go. Michael writes of this so beautifully. We are here to learn, grow and share. To have compassion and empathy for others and of course there is love. Love for self, love for others, love for this powerful planet that we’re all on and sharing.

Sometimes I think that the Earth gets so pissed off that she does things like tornadoes, hurricanes, earthquakes, to wake us up.  Even for a moment, hopefully longer.  Yes, we’ll continue talking beauty, health, fitness, but we also need to circle back around to the Soul.  It all starts there.  First and foremost  . . . that inward journey brings you clarity and hopefully stillness, peace, and love.  That is a vibrant and beautiful life, a life of utilizing our personal power to live authentically and give back in whatever capacity we can with the gifts we have.

In the vortex of a tornado, in the eye of the hurricane,  in the middle of our selves . . .  there is peace. Storms on the outside, peace on the inside.  Nature is a wonderful, beautiful teacher.

 

Sue’s Skin Story

cosmetic dictionaryMany women have asked me over the years what I do to take care of my skin and where this little “obsession” with skincare came from.  It all started with severe acne when in my teens.

I went through hell as a teenager, my mother right along with me.  I’m sure if any of you who have children with horrible acne can relate . . .  there is no peace!  She took me to so many different dermatologists . . . honestly, nothing worked.

My life changed when I started using a line of specialized skincare from the now famous Dr. James Fulton (I believe the line was called “Face Up”).  How we got his name, I don’t remember, but in my world, he was a gift from God.  I used his products religiously and my skin issues were finally under control  Oh, BTW, did I mention he also co-developed Retin A?

It was kind of a nightmare as I had to use this pink face scrub, main ingredient was benzoyl peroxide, and I had to sleep with a thick, goopy face mask in varying degrees until I got better. Oh and you can’t exactly move around and sleep in the positions you’re used to as the mask would end up all over the place!  Many sleepless nights . . .  but worth it. My mother used to say to me all the time . . .  “if one wants to be beautiful, one must suffer“!

Well, the rest is history as they say.  I learned how to take care of my skin.  I learned which ingredients were good and which ones to avoid. It’s still a struggle . . .  now it’s perimenopausal HORMONES! Does it never end? Over the years I started my own skincare library and my go to is A Consumer’s Dictionary of Cosmetic Ingredients by Ruth Winter, M.S. pictured here.  And having apps right at my finger tips, I can look up products, reviews, and ingredients right from my iPhone.  If you see me at a cosmetic counter spending more time on my cell than with the salesperson, you’ll know I’m probably on the BEAUTYPEDIA app from Paula Begoun  . . . a phenomenal app attached to her website loaded with great information.  I highly recommend it!  Knowledge is power Ladies!

More Sun Safety

dv355036I really want to piggy back on Gigi’s last post.  The truth is, exposure to the UVA/UVB rays from the sun is what is aging your skin, especially the UVA.  Time doesn’t age you like the sun’s rays will.

Take a really good look at the skin on your buttocks. Unless you’re an exhibitionist/nudist, the skin on that part of your body hasn’t really “seen” the sun. Now compare it to your face, arms, legs.  See a difference?  Of course you do.  The sun is aging the exposed parts of your body.

We will always talk about the importance of sunscreen . . .  it’s THE MOST IMPORTANT ingredient in skin care.  But I felt the need to remind everyone of areas that are often neglected and that’s where problems can occur.

LIPS . . . many dermatologists are seeing an increase in skin cancer on this area of the face. Dr. Debra Jaliman, a New York dermatologist that has a cool book out called “Skin Rules” discusses this among other issues. There are products that do contain sunscreen for the lips whether a balm or lipstick or gloss.

HANDS . . .  Gigi and I always keep a tube of a hand lotion with SPF in our car and handbag.  We constantly put it on the back of our hands as that area is getting blasted by rays when you are driving. Speaking of driving . . .  I have a UVA/UVB tint on my car windows.  You cannot tint your windshield as it is illegal and technically you can’t tint the driver’s side windows either but I did and am willing to take on the consequences.  In California where we live,  legislation was signed into law January 1, 1999 that allows clear, colorless, and transparent material to be applied to the front and passenger side windows for the specific purpose of reducing ultraviolet rays.  Please check with the local authorities in the state you live in to confirm their laws on this subject.  Just because I’m willing to take risks doesn’t mean you should.

HAIR . . . if you have a part in your hair . . .  guess what?  Your scalp is getting blasted too!  You should put an SPF product of some sort on the scalp where the part is or wear a hat.  I know, this is a tough one . . .  but it’s a reality. That’s why you see me in a baseball cap on the weekends when I’m out and about running around.

NECK . . . don’t forget this area!  Front and back (especially if your hair is short).  I remember having lunch in Miami at a restaurant on the patio of a cool hotel.  It wasn’t a particularly hot day, but when I got home I looked in the mirror and to my horror, my neck and chest were bright red!  Of course my face was protected and just fine, BUT I FORGOT.  I could just kick myself when I remember that day.

EYES/EARS . . . yes you need sunscreen on the skin around your eyes and ears.  I speak about this in my post “TLC for Eyes – Daytime”.  When applying your facial sunscreen, try to get all the skin on your face.  I never really paid attention to that and as a result . . .  my dermatologist found a basal cell carcinoma on the skin right in front of my ear.  Please remember to apply sunscreen on your ears too!

The older I get, the more passionate I am about protecting the skin.  I actually feel sick when I see people walking around on a bright sunny day turning RED right before my eyes!  I’ve been there, I’ve done it. All that damage starts really showing itself in your 40’s . . .  and trust me it will.  Please pay attention!

The Biggest Secret

Before I start blogging about the “fluffy stuff”, I wish to share my personal philosophy (Gigi’s too).  Nothing we share or recommend will do anything for your outside if your inside isn’t grounded, healthy and you have an attitude of gratitude.   You will be wasting a tremendous amount of time and money if you don’t start within yourself.  That is THE biggest secret to looking and feeling your best!  As we blog away, I will recommend my favorite books as some have absolutely changed my life.  I personally feel that everyone needs to read Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now“.  I read it every year . . .  so powerful!  Choosing to live in the NOW (hard to do sometimes, I must admit) does keep you stress free, healthy and quite frankly better looking, as I believe worrying about the past (done!) and stressing about the future (not even here yet!) is a waste of energy and is VERY aging!  Imagine how much easier it is for your cells to rejuvenate themselves when they’re not in an internal state of stress.  I practice “feeling” my emotions every day and when you really tune into yourself, your thoughts are so powerful you can feel them.  Why not have our thoughts and our emotions working the way the Universe (God or whatever higher power you relate to) intended?  We must live in Spirit (NOW), not ego (past and future).  We age ourselves unnecessarily by those thoughts and emotions tied to the past and future (ego run amok!).  You can feel it and it shows!  I truly believe living in the NOW, giving of yourself, and trying to become the best version of yourself is the key to looking and feeling your best.  Some say the outside “stuff” is pure vanity and narcissism.  I say it’s OK and empowering to want to look good, feel good and offer the best of me to everyone I encounter.  The fact is, we live in a visual world.   My definition of beautiful starts from the inside and works its way to the outside.  That is balance, that is healthy, that is beautiful!